Written By: Jenne and Katie

I'm willing to bet there are few men in the Western hemisphere that haven't at least once in their lifetime ever taken a tape measure or ruler out and measured their male member. It's nothing new. According to our own Clitical members who have admitted to doing it, it has mostly been out of curiosity. As a quick look through history will tell you, poets, philosophers, writers and artists have all tried to define the average and above average measure for manhood. Erotic art is full of examples of exaggerated manhood and huge peni, because it was generally believed that the penis was a measure of a guy’s sexual power and vigor. It's not hard to see why bigger is still thought to be better even in this so-called enlightened age.

It appears that many men are obsessed with their penises, even if they don't realize it. Most men live in constant fear that their manhood is not big enough. So what exactly is the "average” man packing between his legs, I hear you ask? According to a recent study, involving 800 men of all shapes, races, and sizes, concluded that the average penis size is 5.5 inches. The vast majority [around 85%] fall between 5-7 inches when erect. Bear in mind though that these measurements weren't taken in any scientific manner. Most were taken by the guys themselves and submitted, so you have to question the accuracy. One thing that is clear from the available statistics is that the size of a man when flaccid will have little bearing on his size when erect. Some men who are tiny when flaccid grow into monsters when the blood starts pumping.

If women are obsessed by breast size then men are equally, if not more so, obsessed by the size of their dicks. Am I big enough, too small, what's the average? Are all questions that occur all too frequently in the forum here at Clitical and elsewhere on the net. Most women’s answer to the question consists of, “It’s not the size that matters, but what you do with it.”

Feel better now gentlemen or still wish you had that extra inch or two? If the answer is yes you want more, then the chances are that rather than needing a way to expand the physical, what you need is a good dose of self-esteem. The size issue, or lack of it, is in general a symptom of low self-esteem as opposed to reflecting a guy’s ability in the sack.

All I can say is, having frequented gyms, nudist camps, nudist beaches, swing parties, and 4 years in the US Army I can safely say…the men getting the great blow jobs, the deep throat blow jobs, the multiple sex partners are...average and smaller guys. Why? Because it is normal, more of them, and they usually aren't hung up on size as much as the guy who thinks he is large, and the guy who is worried that he is small. - Clitical Member

And what causes the low self-esteem? It can be anything from comparing yourself to your peers in the locker room or the reaction of a lover. It’s hard to believe that there are women out there that would actually laugh at a man’s penis size, but I’m sure there probably are a few unfeeling sorts running about. Hopefully, if you are in bed with a woman and have taken your time in using both your tongue and your fingers, she will not be caring too much about your size of your member - especially enough to gauge the length to within a half an inch.

A penis is a surprise up to the moment of it's unveiling, often in the dark. By the time that happens, I don't give a crap what size, shape, color, foreskin attachment condition it is. I am gonna want to do something with it .- Clitical Member

So what would you do if a woman laughed at your penis? Here’s what one of our members said he did:
“I've had only one woman that laughed at my size and she quit laughing after I reminded her that her hole was big enough to drive a Mack truck inside and still have room for another one alongside it. Touché.”

Obviously, a sense of humor can go a long way.
But to many men that extra inch or two that they wish to gain can grow into a huge issue and one that they will do almost anything to achieve. Let's take a look at how women view this whole size issue.

I could not care less how big it is. If you don't know how to use it, I'd rather have my trusty silicone model. A "good size" is anything that skillfully gets the job done. - Clitical Member

In a recent poll taken among women, 82% agreed that the quality of sex is much more important than quantity. First of all, if women feel comfortable with who you are, they will overlook penis size. Whether a penis is 4, 6, or 8 inches, if used properly, it can satisfy her and give her an evening of passion and lust.

I’ve been with guys of all sizes, and I can honestly say that I appreciate a guy that is of average size. Too big can just be painful. I don’t mind guys who are small than average because they tend to try to make up for it in other ways - either through oral or finger stimulation. As long as I have an orgasm, why should I worry over if it came from finger, tongue or cock? - Clitical Member

A woman who is having sex with the man she loves or cares for doesn't care if his penis is 3" or 10". It is completely an emotional surrender and the physical touching heightens that feeling. ...All these things and a lot more practiced and learned well will make you a memorable lover to any woman no matter what size you may have. - Clitical Member

For most women, size really doesn't matter and that's the truth. Why? Because the majority of women don't reach orgasm via intercourse alone. Most require some kind of clitoral stimulation, and this is normally better done with either your hand or your tongue.

One common myth needs to be put to bed: penis size is almost entirely unrelated to height; hand, feet or nose size; or any of the other things you might have heard. But I've often wondered if before we consider having sex with men we should ask them to stick their tongues out, and wiggle it around a little to see if they are likely to measure up in that department. Or maybe open a gym especially for exercising the tongue muscles or perhaps only piano players should be seen as suitable lovers. It may sound silly when I put it like that, but isn't this really what the size issue comes down to? Do you have what it takes to please a woman? Of course there are some women that have a fascination with well-endowed men just as there are men who seek out women with larger breasts.

Leave it to me to go against popular opinion...size does matter to me. So many studies and people claim that we ladies can only feel the first 3 inches anyway. Not true for me. .Maybe I am a freak of nature, who knows? But, if the penis isn't long enough for me to feel it hitting my cervix, it's going to be harder for me to climax. I'm not saying you need to be "Long Dong Silver," but anything 5" or under doesn't do it for me personally. I was engaged to a man who was 5" and he was able to satisfy me orally, but not via intercourse. The point being, he was able to satisfy me (orally) even though he didn't have a large penis. - Clitical Member

It's all about personal preference. But to say that men with small peni are no good in bed is a total injustice and there should be some law against it.

Women generally aren't concerned with the simple size of your package but the package of you as a whole. From the tip of your head to the tip of your toes (and I'm not referring to your second head here guys), and all the things in between these two places are what is important to most women. Not what your packing between your thighs. Many women will tell you that your average sized man makes for a better lover than a 10 incher, because for a start it's easier to give a 6 inch member fellatio than a 12 inch one. Another draw back of larger members is their ability to hit our cervixes, which trust me, in most cases is not a pleasant experience.

A better idea is to let your finger and tongue do the walking and the talking. The plain fact of the matter is that despite what many males think, the vast majority of women don’t come through intercourse alone. If you want to be a better lover, then bone up on your finger and tongue skills rather than obsess over your penis size.

But I've been with men whose penises were above the norm of average...close to 12in. I mean beautiful cocks. But they believed that their cocks ruled the world. And they banged the who-who out of me...which wasn't fun... Now I'm with a man that is above the average but not near the 12in...and he knows how to pleasure me and not just bang the who-who out of me - Clitical Member.

As someone who lives the swinging lifestyle, it amazes me how many men reply to ads with a one liner and a picture of their most prized possession. It always leaves me wondering if there is actually a personality or person attached to it, and why they think I will be impressed with their member more than any other I see. A cock is a cock, is a cock, when it really comes down to it. I really want to know more about the person behind the cock rather than just a floating appendage, be it small or large or anywhere in between. A man that can engage my mind is far more likely to get the answer yes than one who apparently thinks only of his own penis.

There is actually a multi-billion dollar industry being built on the mistaken belief that bigger is better. A quick search of Google under penis enlargement will yield you 409,000 websites dedicated to the subject. That's a lot of websites perpetuating this size myth and a lot of people getting rich from it.

I've been tempted at times to try the programs that claimed size could be gained through some kind of exercise/massage and also some of the natural pills. I figured most were relatively cheap and being natural it wouldn't hurt to try though I didn't expect any or little results.(not using any kind of equipment, just one's hands). - Clitical Member

Non-Surgical Methods:
Creams & Ointments: You could spend around $20 plus shipping and handling for a penis enlargement cream. Most unfortunately only consist of the same ingredients used in peppermint mouthwash, which might make your penis feel tingly and cause an erection it won't alter the length of your dick.

Stretching Devices: Or maybe you would prefer to buy a stretching device and yank your member into shape. For around $40 you can buy devices that will pull, prod or press your dick to the required length. If I ever saw a cause to call Amnesty international and complain about torture some of these devices more than qualify.

Vacuum Pumps: Vacuum pumps take DIY to new heights and although I doubt Bob Villa will ever endorse them, they are certainly popular amongst many males. Whilst occasionally prescribed by some MD's for help with erectile problems, I wouldn't recommend this method either. Using them occasionally will cause no permanent side effect; frequent use can pose serious dangers. The pump works by artificially causing negative air pressure to surround the penis, thus drawing blood into the shaft and making it appear bigger. If you do abuse this method then you could get more than you bargained for, as they can cause the penis to swell to such an extent that tears can develop in the tough fibrous tissues that surround the corpora, the spongy cavity that fill with blood to cause an erection. A tear in this layer of tissues can result in a bloated floppy dick. As blood leaks out of the copera, the leaked blood in turn can also clot under the skin, and give your dick a lumpy appearance. Let's face it, that's not the results we want at all.

Surgical Methods to make the penis longer: There are several surgical methods that are used to enhance the size of the penis. The most common one involves severing a ligament that attaches the penis to the body. There is actually about an inch of the tube that makes up the inside of the penis buried with the body. By serving this ligament the inch can be coaxed out with the use of weights and stretching devices. The down side to this procedure is even when erect the penis may not point upwards after the procedure, and may point downwards instead.

Surgical methods to make the penis thicker: One common method to increase the girth of the penile shaft is fat injection, which essentially is liposuctioning the fat from elsewhere on the body and then injecting it into the penile shaft for that fuller look. The potential problem with this method is that these new fat cells need a blood supply to live. Some of them will find it and some won't, so a portion of the injected fat will simply die. This may cause a lumpy appearance to the penis necessitating further fat injections. Depending on how the body reacts to the injected fat, fibrous scar tissue may form further adding to that lumpy bumpy look. Another method used is injecting fat into a transplanted flap of skin, which is then transplanted complete with blood vessels attached. The downside is that this method leaves scars along the shaft of the penis, which might not be esthetically pleasing.

Guys, now take a deep breath and ask yourself if any of these methods are really worth it just to gain an extra inch? As one of Clitical's visitors pointed out, "a smaller cock makes sucking it a lot easier." Are the advantages of having an extra inch so great that you are willing to risk possible permanent injury, or would you rather spend time finding out what women really want? IF you decide to go for the former then please do your homework, talk to other people who have tried whatever you are thinking of and get references.

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